Monday, June 19, 2017

life consequences; pay up

G and P are off at scout camp.  We've looked forward to this milestone with a lot of trepidation and excitement.  G communicates well and picks up on things quickly.  He doesn't get shy around new people, if anything he is more outgoing for new friends.  But G's CI hadn't been working well for the last 2 months.  We were trying to get an upgrade but with camp looming, we went for a repair which canceled the upgrade.  P called very annoyed that G had worn his CI in the rain and it wasn't working.  This is unusual for G to be so careless with the CI.  But perhaps like the 3 hour sunburn, G is testing consequences.  It's not pleasant, and I hope he learns to just follow his parents advice.  So the CI is in the dry box and hopefully it works tomorrow.  I know G likes to be as irresponsible as the next boy.  But he can't afford to be careless with his CI.  It's not a $500 iphone.  It's a $10,000 device that is his only way to access sound.  The rest of the week will be pretty miserable if he can't hear.  But that's life and maybe he'll learn to take care of it before college.

Friday, May 26, 2017

3 hour sunburn

G had a fun day at school yesterday.  But he also decided to see what all the fuss was about keeping covered.  He laid in the sun for 3 hours with no shirt.  I don't know how this happened.  Aren't fun days supposed to be filled with activities and games? 

Well now he knows what a sunburn is.

Sunday, May 7, 2017


G had a good experience no Thursday.  He had a discussion based assessment for his online class which is done on the phone, but his CI wasn't working.  So he set up the video phone and asked her to call him on that.  After the call the interpreter said G was really good at math and should get a medal.

Later that night we went to a vocabulary competition for deaf students in the area.  G and his friend D won that competition.  They got every answer correct.  It was nice.

Saturday, May 6, 2017


Today G got to go to the temple with the Youth at church.  It was a sweet experience for us both.  I'm so grateful for my reverent and thoughtful boy.

Sunday, April 30, 2017


G had a nice time at the competition in DC.  They did a lot of activities like a scavenger hunt in the Smithsonian, and a bounce house place.  We enjoyed seeing the competitions and watching how the students handled the questions.  Baby was not having any of that so we took turns walking around campus with him. 

G has a big responsibility for next year.  He has been to the competition now and knows the kind of questions they ask and the sort of response that will earn 5 points.  The other 2 youths on his team will be in HS next year.  So G will be the student with experience next year.  It will be up to him to help his team understand how to slow down and make sure everyone agrees on the answer in the first round.  And most importantly it will be his responsibility to teach the other kids how to get the most points in the long response portion.  They can't just say "Because...."  They have to include the title of the book, restate the question, give supporting arguments, state their conclusion, all within the 2 minute limit. 

G is struggling with feelings of spite.  He has enjoyed 12 years of being a sweet tempered child and being generally adored and admired by everyone, especially his siblings.  Now he's a tween and making important decisions about whether he will be a bully, and self important, or whether he will stick to his old role.  He knows that he is very smart, but will he remember that it's more important to be nice than to be important?

In the movie "Moana", the character Maui valued being loved above everything else.  He was rejected by his parents.  Then when the gods gave him a magic hook he used his abilities to gain the favor of the humans.  He created lassoed the sun, he pulled up islands, he planted the guts of an eel to make coconut trees!  He put himself in danger to make the humans love him.  Eventually his vanity led him to steal the heart of Te-fiti which poisoned the earth.  Sometimes our desire for the adulation of others can lead us to do things that don't accomplish our goal!

Sunday, April 9, 2017


G was dressed like the lighthouse the other day as we were taking pictures at the water.  One of his requirements for scouts is to take pictures of 10 animals in the area.  It's been fun to go on walks with him and visit the neighbor to take pictures of wildlife.

G is traveling to DC for a reading competition.  His trip to NY for a math competition was canceled because of bad weather.  Middle school is an exciting time with a lot of opportunities to meet and compete with other students.  He'll also be in a vocabulary challenge in a few weeks.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017


G likes to set alarms on his watch or phone.  He imagines that the vibrating alarms will wake him up.  Recently he set 5 alarms from 7:00am-7:15am.  On day 1 this woke up dad who threw the phone in the yard.  Saturday and Sunday the alarm wasn't set to go off.  Yesterday the alarm woke me on a day that I was exhausted from waking in the night with the little ones.  Similarly today, it woke me and I was super not happy about it.  I got up and slapped G's leg to get him up.  I told him to give me his phone.  I turned off the alarms and proceeded on a tiring day with the baby who had also been waken by the alarms. 

A little while later I realized I didn't know where my watch was with my own alarm set for 7:30.  I didn't find it in time to keep it from waking P who put it on the kitchen counter.  D'oh!

Later when I realize the need to forgive as I hoped to be forgiven for my own thoughtlessness, I told G not to set alarms.  I explained that he was setting up a Rube Goldberg machine where he sets off an alarm to wake the parents that will then wake him up.  And I explained that his parents really didn't like this cycle.  So if he wanted to stop being waken by angry parents, he needed to stop setting alarms.  If he wants us to wake him up, he should ask us to set our own alarms.